My experiences and experiments 3 : Treatment you get when you are 1st

This is one of my recent experience (in around Sept, 2011) where I have started getting up early and decided to go office early in the morning.
Key benefits are:

1. No traffic, no pollution.
2. You can enjoy nature.
3. You start your work early in office, no disturbance in office.
4. High Productivity.
5. High Quality work.
6. High creativity when you are at peak of your energy level.

Apart from above benefits, couple of other observations I experienced which I would like to share to readers. These are indirect benefits.
Generally, I take bus from Goregoan station to Malad (our office on link road).
First day when I started getting up early and reached Goregaon station around 6: 15 AM. I was surprised to see few of our poor brothers sleeping in bus stop of Goregoan bus depo. It was dark and by mistakenly I was standing on wrong bus stop as the one I wanted to stand I guess was occupied by our poor brothers.

I started utilizing my time by starting reading book. Suddenly, I heard a loud voice, seems someone was calling me. I saw that bus driver of BEST (local bus service provider in Mumbai) looking at me and shouting. I approached him and asked what happened? He told that we are not taking bus to bus stop hardly 5 metres away so if you want to go where this bus is going, please join. Actually, I was standing at wrong bus stop and hence that bus was not the one I was targeting. I thanked him, apologized for my mistake and then went to right bus stop.

Major learning from this incident is that if you reach 1st anywhere you get special treatment. Even the place where probability is almost 0%. Bus drivers never asks anybody to catch bus and its not expected as well.
But since I was first and alone he made sure that I don't miss the bus.

So, Wherever you reach first and alone you get highest attention from other people. Get up early. Always try to reach before/on time in  any meeting. Only thing if we loose we can't get again is TIME. Value your time and others.


   

My experiences and experiments 2 : Journey in Mumbai Local Train

So readers might be thinking whats new about travel in Mumbai local? Nothing new but 'Lifeline of Mumbai" deserves something on my blog :-)

It's very common experience but I thought of narrating this so that our coming generation have something documented to refer related to Mumbai local.

When I was travelling in local 24th Nov, 2011 (which is my daily travel to my office), suddenly I was having little headack and I decided to avoid reading (which is my habit whenever I travel to use time effectively.)

I was observing people and amazed to see how our brothers and sisters were using their time in local. (This experience is of 1st class travel --> if readers are from Mumbai, they know very well that you can't observe anything in second class, as you yourself is under stress test. For benefit of readers from Mumbai, Mumbai locals are generally jam packed and travellers are really unique creatures of god as sometime it may be possible that you don't take breath but still alive :-) )

Following are few observation of act of colleagues:

1. Smiling : I still don't understand how people smile and feel happy while thinking or may be without any reason --> It's good habit to have and I would like to learn this.
2. Sleeping : This too I miss in noisy environment but I saw colleagues literally snoring.)
3. Reading : This I do and it's really good habit and improves your concentration as well as environment is noisy. Real test of your concentration power :-))
4. Chanting : Awesome!! There are 2 kind of chanting happens.
• People do chanting within and hardly anyone gets disturbed.
• People do chanting in group and loudly. This must be definitely disturbing the travellers but who have courage to stop them. Good part is : Whatever they are chanting if you will ask meaning of that I feel hardly they will able to explain you!!
5. Mobile Game : Nice way to remain busy in yourself. Nice way to waste your time but at least others are not suffering.
6. Mobile songs: 
• With earphone: Nice  way to remain busy and useful if you are listening some motivational / refreshing music without disturbing others. If listening sad songs, it's better to play game :-).
• Without earphone : Sometime purpose is not listen song but to make others listen. Frustrate others with your unique choice. Railway recently requesting to avoid this :-)
7. Making fun with friends: Enjoying with friends, cracking jokes.
8. Upset : Few travellers I don't know what happened to them in morning at home (must be quarrel with wife). They look very tensed, upset and I feel ready to fight with anyone. (At home, they were looser so they want to win somewhere :-) )
9. Conscious : Few are very conscious. They have nothing to do. They will not talk to anyone and do nothing and just try to make sure that nobody accidentally touches them. Their shoe polish remain intact. Press of shirt is nit disturbed. For them, Things own them in reality instead of they owning things!!  

So, you must be thinking, these are general things and independent of local. But I experienced them in local and I don't want to take that credit away from Mumbai's lifeline otherwise there will not be much difference in me being software professional and politicians.

Conclusion: Lets do whatever you like while travelling. But make sure you effectively use your time. Be ready with a plan of effective utilization of your travel time AS in Mumbai you spend more time in travelling than at home (awaken time I am talking about) !!

My experiences and experiments

      I am Dilip Kumar Dave working as a software professional. Subject of topic must be wondering the readers that :

1. What kind of experiences and experiments I am sharing?
2. Why I am doing this?
3. Why somebody should read this?

      I am not too sure whether I have correct answers to them as it's recent idea came to my mind and I decided to take it forward (as someone says --> A mediocre idea if worked upon is better than big idea which you have never acted upon.)
      Let me try and answer to questions raised above:

1. These are general experiences I am getting in my day to day life and small experiments which I do.
2. Experiments which I am conducting are influenced by my latest reading on "Mahatma Gandhi". His book "My experiments with Truth" is really inspiration and it's giving another face lift to my life.
3. I being common man till now it's better that you learn from my experiences and experiments and see my journey over the top. Till now I am an ordinary person but soon you will see there will be a dramatic upward moment in my life. Right now you can travel with me and reach on top later on you will be mandated to read but you may need to travel alone :-)

My experiences and experiments 1 : Child – A Natural King

Child – A Natural King

This is one of my personal experiences which I observe with my Kid and it amazed me.

One of my hobbies is to read materials /attending trainings on positive attitude development. As part of this, I have started repeating certain statements like “I am the King of this world” daily morning as spoken words which you listen have more power and impact on your thought process.

One day same statement I was sharing in front of my son and then he repeated same. But again when I repeated he told that: Daddy, I am the King of this world so you please say “Hitesh is the King of this world”. I tried to convince him somehow that you are mine son so you can become “Prince of this world” and let me be King. But all my efforts were in vain and he mentioned that if you want to become Prince I am fine but I will remain King.

This above small incident makes us realize that when we are child, we are just like King. It’s when we grow, get more experience, more fears come into picture and it dilutes our talent. 

Message is: “Live life, King Size”. Biggest risk is that we don’t take risk. Embrace your fears!!

Alignment of Intentions and Actions

Intentions and Actions: These 2 are keywords and need very clear understanding for success.
Your intentations and actions should be aligned for any goal you want to acheive in life.
If they are not aligned, there is every possibility that you will not aheive your goal.
e.g. You are giving some lovely written notes to your wife (Performing actions) to work on your relationship, but if  you don't have very strong intentions behind improving relationship you will keep doing some other activities which will hurt her and finally she will feel loving notes are just a formality.

If you have very good intention to work on your relationship but you are not performing any action, that will not be noticed and again there will not be any improvement..

Conclusion : So, If somehow things are not working though you are putting continuous effot, Just validate that your intenations and actions are aligned.   

Points on how to improve yourself..

This is something I have read from somewhere.I personally liked it so thought to share so that anyone who can't reach to that site, read from here..

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

Power of Imagination

Imagining and identifying self improvement areas are my hobbies. I am working on improving my interpersonal skills and leadership skills. So, I am reading many books nowadays.

Recently, I came across NLP Garden technique and I am personally doing it every day.

The way I do it is simple and mentioned below:

•   I close my eyes in silent place and before starting imagination, in order to come in rhythm, I start counting reverse from 100 to 1.Once reverse counting is done then start imagining.
•   I start from my home (which is on first floor) kissing my 5 year old son and then move out of my home. 
•  I come down to my society premises which is having temple, take blessings of god and then move out of my society gate. 
• I walk on service road, then on western express highway to fly over on same and then I enter the garden of my imagination. 
• In garden , I sit beneath a tree and then meet 3 great people of Indian history - Mahatma Gandhi, Pandit Neharu and Bhagat Singh. 
• I have discussion with them related to humanity, nation and can you believe related to any problem I am facing... 
• After meeting is over, I go to the temple in garden, pray there and then go to lush green portion of garden and sleep in center of garden looking at sky..which gives me a feeling of abundance just like sky.. 
•  Throw  all your stress and tension out of garden. 
•   Then I leave garden and perform exactly reverse steps to reach home which I had followed for reaching garden.

 This helps me in self enlightenment, exploring my sub-conscious mind, refuels all my energy, keeps me cool, calm and composed...more than this, this process makes me think like great leaders of our country i.e. whenever I am in a problematic situation and I need to take decision, I think how these great leaders might have behaved in this situation and this helps me in decision making!!

7 Habits of highly effective people

I have recently read this book "7 Habits of highly effective people" by Stephen Covey and found that it's must read book ( in fact study book not only read :-) ) for any one who really want to move from good to great.
Book talks about following 7 habits which are calssified into Private and Public Victories:
Private Victory:
  1. Be proactive
  2. Begin with end in mind
  3. Put first things first

Public Victory:
 4. Win-Win or No Deal
 5. Seek First to understand than to be understood
 6. Synergy

7. Sharpen the Saw
   Renewal of Physical, Spiritual, Mental = Private Victory
  Renewal of Social = Public Victory.

Ganesh Vandana

"Vakratund Mahakay Suryakoti samprabha, Nirvighna Kurume devo serv karyoshi sarvada"

I am very spiritual and having lot of beleif in power of someone and as per Hiduism we start any good work with Ganesh Vandana so I am starting my blog with this..